Where your power comes from.

How do you define “power”?

Oftentimes we think of power as being physically powerful. Who can lift the most or push the hardest.

Other times we think of power as the one with all of the decision making ability. Like a king or president or judge.

Then there is the power to influence and create change. Those people are sometimes known as entrepreneur’s or business leaders.

Is power the realization of something or the enforcement? In order for power to be felt, it must first be realized, then eventually enforced – else it was ever just an idea.

Here’s what I’m thinking. Is my power going to come from my mind or is it going to come from force – the physical?

I have learned over the past several months that my power comes straight from inside me. The decisions I’ve made have brought me right out of a power chair that I was reliant on to get around. At home, I used a regular wheelchair. I was diagnosed with an extremely rare illness for the second time in five years. The symptoms are brutal and the origin of the illness comes from a very slow growing cancerous tumor in or near my lungs.

In March of 2013 I was diagnosed for the second time with this illness called Cushing’s Syndrome. From March to June, my health declined at lightning speeds. I went quickly from walking normally to using a cane, to a manual wheelchair, to a power chair.

In January 2014, I decided to get a divorce and leave my husband. It had been a very unhealthy relationship for years. The stress of living together was overwhelming and physically took its toll on me. I joined Match.com shortly thereafter. I was interested in seeing whether there were guys out there interested in someone like me. My womanhood had been put into question so many times by my ex-husband that I’d had little confidence left in myself to be attractive or wanted.

On March 7, 2014, I went on a simple daytime date with a man I’d met on Match. We’d been texting and getting to know each other for weeks. I knew I didn’t want to go on this date in a wheelchair. I’d told him about my condition because I didn’t want him to be surprised. When I showed up, I took only my cane. I drove for the first time in almost a year. I’d been practicing using just my cane while at home.

That date didn’t work out well. I wasn’t interested in him once we got together, although he was a very nice man. But that date did something for me. It made me want to try.

A few weeks later, I had a date with another man I’d met on Match. I was determined to do what doctors told me I couldn’t. I lost 15 pounds before our first date – in a very healthy way. I completely stepped away from my wheelchairs both at home and at work. On the day of our first date, I took no cane. I met him with confidence and excitement. This was the beginning of a friendship that would never end.

I can’t say that the relationship went how I’d first anticipated. But we’re great friends and communicate in some way every single day.

What I learned, getting back to the topic at hand, is that the power was always in me to make the changes necessary to relieve myself of the pain I’d been in. I had to decide to try. I can’t say that I knew what I was doing when I decided to get a divorce and leave my husband. I mean – I didn’t know what other changes in my life that would lead to. And I’m certainly not suggesting people go out and get a divorce because that will solve all of your problems. I still have other problems that can’t be resolved so easily. But! I think the power is within us to make certain changes in our lives. Especially our physical and mental lives.

Last summer I sat on a sofa working from home almost everyday. I watched a lot of television and movies from that sofa. I was alone and pretty much a zombie.

This summer, I live on my own. I am active and trying all kinds of new things I’ve never tried before. I adopted a dog and have started dating. I get out and walk around like nothing was ever wrong with me. I’ve lost 35 pounds since March and feel great.

My doctor stated in his last note how amazing it was that my tests dropped back into normal range. He said, “Excellent, but unexplainable improvements.”

I say – no, they’re explainable. It’s called power. I know where mine comes from. Where does your power come from?

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